6 Totally Okay Reasons to Skip Someone's Wedding

When you get to a certain age, you start to get a ton of wedding invites. Which is exciting—yay, everyone's getting married!—but this time can also be super stressful. You have to figure out how to travel to most of these celebrations, book a hotel room, find something to wear, AND buy a gift. Attending every event you get invited to can be a huge drain on your finances and just on you in general. So how are you to decide when it's okay to say no? Here are six situations in which you don't need to attend if you'd rather not.
Photo by Omar Lopez on Unsplash
Photo by Omar Lopez on Unsplash

You simply can't afford to go.

You live in L.A. but your pal is getting married on the picturesque island of St. Lucia. Which sounds incredible...until you realize that just the flight out there will set you back over $1,000. When couples decide to have destination weddings, they do realize that not everyone on their guest list will be able to make it (or, at least, they should). If attending a wedding will put you in a not-so-great financial sitch, it's more than okay to decline and send a sweet card with a small gift instead.

You'll have to sacrifice all of your vacation time.

Paid time off is precious. While you'll likely be able to make long weekends out of some weddings for a little rest and relaxation time, you don't want to attendsomany nuptials that you are completely out of vacation days, or worse—get into the red. Plus, you need to be able to take days for yourself and recharge where and when you want to...not just in cities where your friends are getting hitched. Remember it's totally fine to do you, even in the midst of a crazy year of weddings.

You haven't communicated at a level higher than texting on birthdays in over a year.

  Weddings are special events at which people you truly care about should be in attendance. If you haven't spoken on the phone or seen the couple who invited you (or at least the person in the couple to which you're close) in a long time—and you get the feeling that this trend will continue—you don't need to go. You don't want the last time you'll ever see someone to be at their wedding.
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Photo by Andrik Langfield on Unsplash

You've never met his or her intended.

Again, this is all about the level of friendship and your relationship with the person in the couple who you're friends with (or related to, in some cases): You may live on opposite coasts so never meeting the spouse-to-be is just an unfortunate consequence of being long-distance close pals. But, more than likely, you've never met the friend or family member's other half because you're just not that tight anymore.

You're one of the hundreds of invitees.

When you've been invited to a 500-person wedding and you're not super close with the people who invited you anymore or you'd have to stretch your budget to attend, you can bow out without hurting anyone's feelings. Basically, if you feel like your invite was sent in order to pad the guest list, it probably was.

You're cool with not being close friends anymore.

Maybe you've realized you don't really want to be good pals with someone anymore—or you never liked him/her to begin with. Wanting to skip someone's wedding is a clear sign that you're okay with letting that friendship fade. (Though, RSVPing "no" to a wedding in order to "send someone a message" is super passive aggressive and definitely NOT recommended!) 
About the author
Kellee Khalil is the Founder & CEO of Loverly. She lives in upstate NY with her fiancé and two dogs.